Month: October 2013
23) Talk about a moment when you got annoyed with a married friend, a person in a relationship, or a person with kids (Be honest! No judgment!)
Just this weekend, went on a road trip with my family. My cousin brought his girlfriend and they were all lovely dovey…gross! Irritated! You know when you’re just envious down inside that you throw shade for no reason at all? One of those moments…at least I’m honest. It’s an honest feeling, I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one.
How about when you’re old friends have no time for you because they got a boyfriend or a husband and kids now…makes you wonder if you have anything in common anymore.
It’s not out of malice for their situation, it’s more how your personal situation makes you feel. TRUTH.
24) If you could relive ONE day of your life, what would it be? And would you change anything?
Too many to just say one.
Any time I get off the plane in Vincy, there is nothing like that feeling. I become overwhelmed with identity and peace.
The day my little cousins were born. Saniyahh was everything I needed and then some. Cali – she brought tears to my eyes, couldn’t help but break down and cry while looking at her photos.
One special night in Vincy last year. Nothing like honesty and God between two people and a beautiful island. That moment was…essence.
wouldn’t have changed anything
I’ve been slacking on my posts. I’ve been so busy, without internet and I’m now playing catch up…bare with me!
21) How would you pitch a reality show about yourself? To what network?
Definitely on E or MTV. I’d pitch my family and I! We’re crazy bunch. We’d make great TV, we got some type of up and down going on a weekly basis. We live really close together, like we’re still back home in Vincy. Put us in one house and you’ll have great family time, holes in walls, baby news and much much more!
Nay’s World: Highs and Lows of a Scarborough Family
22) What fictional character in a movie, tv show, or book do you identify with and why?
Gabriel Union in Mary Jane. It’s so unreal. I just wish my life does not turn out like that, but it’s definitely headed that way. If you’ve never heard of the show, check out the teaser and clips here, http://www.bet.com/shows/being-mary-jane.html
photo taken from: http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com/2013/06/being-mary-jane.html
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19) What is something about you that people would be surprised to learn?
I’m pretty open, I don’t hide much. I think speaking your truth is important. I don’t know if this is considered a surprise, but I do have a heart condition, that can become active at anytime really due to stress or hyperactivity. The condition is fatal. But I’m still here, kicking and well.
20) Describe your most difficult breakup and what you learned from it
It was a few years ago. We ended a long distance relationship because the timing was off and we wanted more from each other and we deserved more from each other. I ended it because it was becoming so real for me. I was falling in love and it needed to end before the pressure of where we lived and outside situations really tarnished what we had built. That break up had me weak. Truthfully I loved him since I was nine and I never thought he would even notice me. The hardest part about it was that we were really good friends and I felt like I lost one of my best friends. I knew love existed after experiencing him. I learned that people come into your life for a reason and a season. I learned so much from him. I was so honest with myself while I was with him. And I strive to be that person till this day. I learned that it’s ok to be me. The break up was hard because he meant so much to me, he always will.
17) What are your spiritual beliefs and how do they impact your relationships/relationship status?
I’m a Christian. And in my relationships, prayer is very important to me. I pray constantly throughout the day.
Through encouragement and prayer, as a woman, you illustrate the vision you have for your man. Be encouraging and speak God’s words into him. I’m not in a relationship unless I do this for him…for us. If I don’t seek God to stay connected and grow with him, then it’s pointless.
18) If you could have a conversation with yourself in high school, what would you say?
I’d tell her to slow down, take her time and these feelings and people will eventually fade. I’d tell her that the stupid little boys she’s running after won’t matter in 10 years. I’d tell her less drama and more fun is very necessary!
I hope this post does not offend anyone.
15) Narrate a conversation between you and someone in your life who you never had closure with (a friend, an ex, a family member, etc.) What would you say? What would they say? What outcome would you hope for?
My uncle. He passed away on my 24th birthday. My father did not play an active role in my life growing up and unfortunately was not there when my mother gave birth to me. My uncle was there. So it only made sense when he passed on my birthday, life and death. He struggled with demons in his younger years and brought that into many of his relationships. His younger children(my cousins) became very controlling as a result of their father’s earlier life. Although my uncle remarried and turned his life around there are negative behaviours he left with his children which they took out on me. I resented him for that. The last conversation we had I was extremely rude to him and he had no idea why. I wanted to tell him that he ultimately hurt me too but I just didn’t know how. When he passed, broken relationships where mended except between an uncle and a niece. I would have told him that his ways affected me too and that till this day they affect me. I would also apologize for my behaviour.
Niece: You were abusive and in turn caused your children to become abusive in other ways
Uncle: what do you mean? What are you talking about?
Niece: they have hurt me and they are this way because you hurt them. So you hurt me too. I’m older now and you’re no longer my moon and stars. I see you as a man, flaws and all. I understand how they are the way they are, but I don’t want to be subjected to their abuse anymore.
Uncle: (making excuses)
Niece: I’m sorry I was rude to you before. I had this hurt on my chest that I didn’t know how how to get off. My father ignited it and I saw him in you. You both are supposed to protect me, not abuse and neglect me.
16) If you planted a time capsule right now of your life to be opened in 20 years, what would be in it?
1. My children’s bible
2. My body butter – new business venture
3. a copy of my first magazine issue
4. my old blackberry
5. a pair of my favorite heels
6. a bottle of El dorado rum
7. A few albums (Jcole – Born Sinner, Drake – Take Care(not Nothing Was The Same) and Emeli Sande – Our Version of Events
8. Acts of Faith by Iyanla Vanzant
9. A pic of my family and I
10. A list of my current goals
My diary is my real time capsule, so glad I keep them.
Today my Mom and I walked to support Breast Cancer Research. My grandmother was diagnosed with it and eventually passed away from it and we did this for and others. Irony in it is, Hope was my grandmother’s maiden name. Definitely did this for you Granny!