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Authenticity

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I’ve started a new journey…it’s nothing new…I mean the concept isn’t but the journey is new for me. 

I’ve been in need of a new book.  Something to inspire me and create a shift for me. I can feel when my spirit is in need of something refreshing and when my mind is ready for a shift in growth and enlightenment. I recently went through a traumatizing break up ( if you can call it that) and was needing to shed some of that unwanted pressure and weight. 

 

I came across Brené Brown’s book while on break from work one day. I’ve definitely heard of her work and past publications and knew that she was a shame researcher and educator. I was still drawn to this one particular book, her newest book entitled ‘The Gifts of Imperfections ‘. Feeling imperfect and unworthy after that ‘breakup’, I was completely drawn to this book. I read through certain parts of the book and loved the tone and content.  I didn’t know how much I needed this book and Brené ‘s guide posts until I was addicted to the ‘what’s next’. 

What I’ve learned thus far

I’ve learned about how impact-full this past relationship was. I learned that being myself required the Three C ‘ s,  courage, connection and compassion. I’ve also learned that I’ve always tried to just be Renee but on some days I fall short and look for approval from others thus transforming myself into someone I’m not just for a sense of belonging. Authenticity over approval is required in my life going forward and I challenge anyone who reads this to do the same. I’ve learned that I am my best when I’m being authentic. For example, achieving my goals, living hard and free, implementing and executing my visions or someone else’s visions and using my talents and gifts. I’m sure there’s more but I’m only 2/3 through the book.

 

Never be afraid to tell your story. Courage is what’s going to get you that connection and compassion to help you over that hurdle and on YOUR imperfect path to being YOU! 

I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s time I find the courage to write and own my story! 

 

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Revenge

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Has he ever pushed you to seek revenge? Let’s be honest – everyone woman can relate although many won’t admit it, women have sought revenge on their partner. 

Incarcerated, Vybz Kartel and Jamaican sensation, Denyque paint the perfect picture of what happens when your partner messes up. Nothing like a woman scorned. 

“revenge, revenge, you deserve it boy…nah nah nah nah we even”

 

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge: Day 29 & 30

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29)   Who is your closest or most special friend that you’ve never met and what do they mean to you? How did you cross paths? Talk about how you “met” them: Facebook, Twitter, an online support group, etc.

Does God count? If so, He’s the only relationship that will never ever need to be explained. 

I’d have to say Jeneille. She writes for the magazine. She came on has a writer and then became our beauty editor and social media manager. I found her blog through a Caribbean blog directory. I realized early on that she had great purpose. She was here to help me grow in so many ways, professionally and personally. She has me doing this stupid challenge! I accept her season in my life, I depend on it at times for work or just for some one to hear me vent. I’m grateful. 

30)   Write a letter to your future mate saying whatever you want to say

Dear Future Mate, 

Be patient with me, help me, protect me and honour me and our potential. Make me laugh, make me smile and cherish me. 

I’ll protect you, I’ll pray for you and I’ll challenge you. I’m your rib. You bleed, I bleed. 

Hold on because it will get bumpy. Just don’t lose sight of we. 

It’s our world, abundantly. 

 

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge: 27 & 28

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27)   Talk about something that you really, really, really love about yourself.

I really love that I’m so down to earth. That I can be in many different spaces and connect with people regardless. I love many things about myself, but being able to interact with people at all levels I think is an asset. 

28)   Describe a moment when you made a big, bold move. In any area of life: Career, Love, etc.

Career – starting my own business. Very bold, very costly, very time consuming, very stressful. I could be doing something else, but I’m here starting my own business and being me – being bold!

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge: 25 & 26

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25)   Describe a moment when you “paid it forward.” What happened and how did it feel?

I was a sunday school teacher for a few years and we had to put on a show. Years before that I was one of the youngest members of our Church Junior Choir and we practiced very hard and won many awards. This situation with the sunday school was different. They hadn’t had training and we got them at all ages from 3-17. We had no idea what we were getting ourselves into. The conductors are my Choir director’s(who passed away several years ago) children. This was not jut nostalgic for me but emotional for them. We practiced very hard and decided to put on a Christmas show. The outpouring response was amazing. Although, we were apprehensive the show turned out great. The kids sonunded amazing! We found out that some of them can actually sing and we gave them solos during the showcase. Although they would complain duirng rehearsal, after the Christmas showcase, they asked for a Spring Showcase! 

26)   Name a song that makes you cry every time you hear it and why

I got to find peace of mind – Lauryn Hill

 

The Single Woman’s 30-Day Blogging Challenge: 19 & 20

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19)   What is something about you that people would be surprised to learn?

I’m pretty open, I don’t hide much. I think speaking your truth is important. I don’t know if this is considered a surprise, but I do have a heart condition, that can become active at anytime really due to stress or hyperactivity. The condition is fatal. But I’m still here, kicking and well.

20)   Describe your most difficult breakup and what you learned from it

It was a few years ago. We ended a long distance relationship because the timing was off and we wanted more from each other and we deserved more from each other. I ended it because it was becoming so real for me. I was falling in love and it needed to end before the pressure of where we lived and outside situations really tarnished what we had built. That break up had me weak. Truthfully I loved him since I was nine and I never thought he would even notice me. The hardest part about it was that we were really good friends and I felt like I lost one of my best friends. I knew love existed after experiencing him. I learned that people come into your life for a reason and a season. I learned so much from him. I was so honest with myself while I was with him. And I strive to be that person till this day. I learned that it’s ok to be me. The break up was hard because he meant so much to me, he always will.